Reading Request - A Question of Rekindling
A client requested a reading this past week and has given me permission to share it. Her inquiry was:
“I‘m hoping to rekindle my relationship with my former boyfriend and I want to understand the situation in his current relationship - so I know if there's a chance for us.”
Here are the cards that appeared in response.
Center: Thought reversed, Sorrow, Friend, Messenger
Above: Surprise, Death reversed, Letter reversed, Sweetheart reversed
Right: Reunion reversed, Child, Conversation, Gift
Left: Sighs, Doctor reversed, Service reversed, Wife reversed
Below: Servant reversed, Merchant reversed, joyfulness reversed, Malady reversed
Center Cards (Current Situation of His Relationship)
Thought Reversed: His current relationship appears to lack depth of reflection or thoughtful consideration. There may be impulsive decision-making or superficial connection rather than profound understanding between them.
Sorrow: There is significant sadness or grief present in his current relationship. This suggests emotional pain, perhaps disappointment or loss that's affecting them both.
Friend: Their relationship may have shifted to more of a friendship than a romantic partnership. There's a foundation of trust but potentially lacking passion.
Messenger: News or important communication is happening in his current relationship. Conversations about the state of their relationship may be taking place.
Above Cards (Past Influences on His Relationship)
Surprise: Their relationship likely began with unexpected excitement or developed in ways neither anticipated, possibly beginning quickly or under unusual circumstances.
Death Reversed: A significant ending in their relationship was avoided or postponed. Though they may have faced serious issues, they've continued rather than breaking up completely.
Letter Reversed: Important communication between them was delayed or never happened. Essential conversations have been postponed or messages misunderstood.
Sweetheart Reversed: There appears to be unrequited love or emotional disconnect. One may have stronger feelings than the other, or the romantic aspects have significantly cooled.
Right Cards (Obstacles in His Relationship)
Reunion Reversed: Their attempts to reconnect emotionally or resolve issues have been unsuccessful. Reconciliation efforts haven't yielded positive results.
Child: Their relationship faces challenges related to new beginnings or naivety. They may approach problems immaturely or have different visions for growth.
Conversation: A significant obstacle involves communication. Needed discussions are difficult or avoided, creating distance.
Gift: Issues around giving and receiving exist - whether emotional, material, or symbolic. There may be imbalance in what each contributes.
Left Cards (What He's Learning From This Relationship)
Sighs: He's processing emotions and learning to acknowledge feelings of longing or regret. This relationship is teaching him about emotional processing.
Doctor Reversed: He's learning that external advice or solutions aren't working. Professional or outside guidance hasn't resolved their underlying issues.
Service Reversed: He's experiencing or recognizing unbalanced giving dynamics. This relationship is teaching him about healthy boundaries and reciprocity.
Wife Reversed: He's questioning traditional relationship structures or commitment. This situation is prompting him to reconsider what partnership means to him.
Below Cards (Future of His Relationship)
Servant Reversed: His relationship is moving toward a situation where supportive behavior diminishes. One or both partners may become unwilling to make sacrifices for the other.
Merchant Reversed: Financial or practical aspects face increasing challenges. Material concerns or business matters may create additional strain.
Joyfulness Reversed: Instead of happiness, disappointment lies ahead. Their relationship appears to be moving toward greater dissatisfaction rather than celebration.
Malady Reversed: While this can indicate healing, in context with the other cards, it suggests any recovery will be partial or temporary. The relationship's fundamental issues may persist despite attempts to address them.
Chances for Rekindling Your Relationship
Based on this spread, there appear to be significant challenges in your former partner's current relationship. The combination of Sorrow in the present position with multiple reversed cards in the future position suggests his current relationship is experiencing difficulties that are likely to continue or worsen.
The presence of Friend in the center suggests his current relationship may have already shifted toward friendship rather than passionate partnership. Combined with Sweetheart Reversed in the past position, this indicates the romantic elements have diminished.
The Reunion Reversed card as an obstacle is particularly relevant to your question - it suggests difficulty reconnecting, but this could apply to both his current relationship and potentially to your hopes of rekindling.
The future cards (particularly Joyfulness Reversed) suggest his current relationship is moving toward greater disappointment rather than happiness. This creates a potential opening, but approach cautiously - the Service Reversed and Merchant Reversed cards indicate he may be dealing with complicated dynamics and practical considerations.
While his current relationship appears strained, the spread doesn't directly address whether rekindling with you would be successful. The presence of Sighs as advice suggests he's in a reflective, potentially wistful state, which might include thoughts about past relationships including yours.
If you decide to approach him, the Conversation card appearing as an obstacle suggests communication will be crucial but challenging. Moving slowly and allowing honest dialogue would be essential, as the Thought Reversed card indicates he may not have clarity about what he truly wants.
This spread shows potential opportunity due to difficulties in his current relationship, but also indicates complex emotional terrain that would require careful navigation if you choose to pursue rekindling your connection.